In this series, we’ll look at twelve common false beliefs and assumptions—two at a time—that have derailed many people in recovery. Some even come from sincere efforts to do things God’s way. The first step to avoiding these pitfalls is simply becoming aware of them.
The Final Two Common False Assumptions to Avoid:
“Though I can forgive most things, some things are just beyond forgiveness.”
Some wounds cut so deep that forgiveness feels impossible. The pain can seem too great, and the offense too undeserved. But forgiveness is not about pretending what happened was acceptable—it’s about freeing yourself from the poison of resentment.
When we hold onto bitterness, we chain ourselves to the very pain we want to escape. Many call justifiable resentment one of the most dangerous emotions we can harbor—it feels righteous, but it robs us of peace and joy. True forgiveness doesn’t excuse wrongdoing; it releases its control over you.
As you let go, God begins to heal what resentment has been hiding. The same grace that forgave you through Christ empowers you to extend forgiveness to others—and experience the freedom He longs for you to have.
Scripture:
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” — Ephesians 4:31–32
“Since I’m involved in recovery, I don’t need additional counseling or medication.”
Recovery is an act of surrender—entrusting every part of your healing to God’s care. But that surrender often includes accepting help from others. Many people believe that once they’ve joined a recovery group or turned to God, they shouldn’t need professional counseling or medical support. Yet Scripture reminds us that wisdom is found in humility.
If God provides you with resources like therapy, medication, or specialized care, using them is not a sign of weak faith—it’s an act of obedience and courage. Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is admit you need more help. Healing often comes through multiple pathways, all guided by the same Healer.
Scripture:
“Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” — Proverbs 11:2
Reflection Questions:
- Am I holding onto resentment because it feels justified?
- How has unforgiveness kept me from fully healing?
- Do I see counseling, medication, or professional help as weakness—or as a tool God can use for my restoration?
- What step of humility could I take today that would move me closer to freedom?
Closing Prayer:
Lord, thank You for showing me that forgiveness is not a feeling but a choice that leads to freedom. Help me release the bitterness and resentment that weigh down my heart, trusting You to bring justice and healing in Your time. Give me humility to accept all forms of help You provide—through prayer, through people, and through professionals who care. Teach me to walk in grace, wholeness, and wisdom as I continue my journey of recovery with You.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
