In this series, we’ll look at twelve common false beliefs and assumptions—two at a time—that have derailed many people in recovery. Some even come from sincere efforts to do things God’s way. The first step to avoiding these pitfalls is simply becoming aware of them.
Two Common False Assumptions to Avoid:
“Since Jesus would want me to help my old friends, I don’t need to change where I go or whom I hang out with.”
It’s true that Jesus calls us to love others and to be a light in dark places—but first, we must be strong enough to stand in that light ourselves. Many people fall back into old habits because they try to help others before their own recovery is secure. The Bible warns us to flee from temptation and pursue righteousness alongside those who share our commitment to God and recovery. You can’t rescue someone from quicksand while you’re still standing in it yourself. In time, God may call you back to help those friends—but not until your own footing is firm in Him.
Scripture:
“Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.”
— 2 Timothy 2:22
“Though I can forgive most things, some things are just beyond forgiveness.”
Forgiveness can feel impossible when the wound is deep. But forgiveness is not about pretending what happened was okay—it’s about freeing yourself from the poison of resentment. When we hold onto bitterness, it slowly drains the life and peace God wants to restore in us. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse the other person’s actions; it releases their power over you. Through Christ, we receive undeserved forgiveness—and He invites us to pass that same grace on to others, so we can live in freedom instead of pain.
Scripture:
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
— Ephesians 4:31–32
Reflection Questions:
Have I been trying to help people who pull me back into old habits rather than closer to Christ?
Who in my life encourages me to pursue right living, faith, love, and peace?
What pain or resentment am I still holding onto that God is asking me to release?
How would my life feel lighter if I chose to forgive as Christ forgave me?
Closing Prayer:
Lord, thank You for calling me out of my old life and into the light of Your truth. Give me wisdom to know when to step away from old places and people that could pull me backward, and strength to build new relationships that help me grow in faith and recovery. Teach me what true forgiveness looks like—help me to release bitterness and find healing in Your grace. May Your love flow through me, freeing me to walk in peace and share Your hope with others when the time is right. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
