“We admitted we were powerless over our dependencies (and strongholds) and that our lives have become unmanageable”.
The principle behind step one is honesty. It asks us to humbly look at our lives and tell the truth about the places where we have been trapped—where our own strength, wisdom, and willpower have failed us. It’s here, in this honest admission, that the journey toward healing begins.
Reflection:
Hagar didn’t choose her situation. She was used by Sarah and Abraham, mistreated, and eventually fled. But her story isn’t one-sided. After becoming pregnant, she “looked with contempt” on Sarah (Genesis 16:4). In her pain, pride crept in. She didn’t create the system—but she did contribute to the conflict. (To learn more about the Faith Story of Hagar and Ishmael click https://yourfaithjourneys.com/hagar/ ).
Alone in the wilderness, God met her with a question: “Where have you come from, and where are you going?” (Genesis 16:8). It cut through her defenses. She didn’t make excuses—just admitted, “I’m running.” It was a moment of surrender. And God met her there, with compassion and a promise.
Like Hagar, we often end up in messes we didn’t fully cause. But healing starts when we stop defending and start being honest—about both our wounds and our responses.
Application:
• Be Honest About Your Role – Hagar had to face how she reacted to her pain. Ask: How have I responded to my situation?
• Admit Powerlessness – True freedom begins when we stop pretending and say, “I can’t fix this on my own.”
• Surrender and Receive – God didn’t just hear Hagar—He blessed her. Your honesty creates space for His grace.
Prayer:
God, May I admit when I’m in a place I can’t control. May I not only confess what’s been done to me, but how I’ve reacted—through pride, anger, or escape. May I choose to be honest with You and with myself when I feel like running. Meet me in my wildernesses, and remind me that You hear me, You see me, and You are not done with my story. Amen.
Closing Word:
Honesty isn’t weakness—it’s courage. When we own our story before God, He meets us with mercy, not condemnation. He hears your cry. Begin with truth, and let grace follow.
Bible Scripture to consider:
GENESIS 16:11 (NLT)
“You shall call his name Ishmael, because the Lord has listened to your affliction”
